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My dad is dying

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MrsKeats · 04/09/2021 16:38

Called to the hospital today-my dad has pneumonia and Parkinson's as well as dementia. Don't know how to feel really-he has been ill for a good few years so it would be a relief in some ways.
My mum is in her eighties but pretty sprightly really.

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jennytheonionslayer · 04/09/2021 16:40

Sorry to hear that, my Mum has Parkinsons and has just had a stroke too.

Dreading the inevitable, I feel for you.

loopylindi · 04/09/2021 16:49

How have his last years been? Has he been in pain? Is he in touch with reality. How's your mum taking it? All of these things will affect you handle the situation. When my Mil developed meningitis and went unconscious very quickly the end, when it came, was peaceful and we were grateful that she was not, and would not suffer any more.

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MrsKeats · 04/09/2021 16:52

Thanks everyone. The last few years have been him in and out of hospital. My mum seems to be pretty accepting of the inevitable.

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MrsKeats · 04/09/2021 16:52

No he's been pretty out of touch with reality for quite a while.

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PermanentTemporary · 04/09/2021 18:47

A very strange time for you. I hope he seems comfortable and you get information when you need it Flowers

Whenigrowupiwanttobea · 04/09/2021 19:19

Sorry to hear that OP. Hopefully your dad is comfortable and pain-free. I am glad you are able to be with him. As a Nurse I have heard numerous times that people feel strange when they lose a parent to Dementia or a long term illness because it's as if the mourning has already been done so you are left with a strange emotion of acceptance tinged with sadness. I hope you and your mum have the support and comfort you need to get through the next few difficult days.

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MrsKeats · 04/09/2021 22:55

Thanks guys.
He died this evening.
Whenigrow that's so accurate.
It is a relief in a way that he went peacefully and it's over-he was so confused at the end.

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ParkheadParadise · 04/09/2021 22:59

Sorry for your loss @MrsKeats

DramaAlpaca · 04/09/2021 23:00

I'm so sorry for your loss Flowers

FusciasBright21 · 04/09/2021 23:04
Flowers

So sorry for your loss.

Yoksha · 04/09/2021 23:04

So sad for your loss. I understand?Flowers

KitKatKong · 04/09/2021 23:05

So sorry for your loss Thanks

finished31 · 04/09/2021 23:05

So sorry for your loss c

Elieza · 04/09/2021 23:37

So sorry for your loss. Flowers

Topseyt · 05/09/2021 00:52

I'm so sorry to hear this. We went through it with my Dad in March with the worsening of his existing medical conditions. He didn't have dementia, but had loads of other things and was mightily confused towards the end.

It is a hard time, and strange too. Like you say, there was an element of relief too that it was over and he was no longer suffering.

Hand hold from me.

toomuchlaundry · 05/09/2021 01:08

I am so sorry @MrsKeats Flowers

I am coming up to the 4th anniversary of my DF passing. He had been ill for a number of years, steadily getting worse. He spent the last 3 weeks in hospital getting more confused. So it was a sort of relief when he died. But still very sad. You will have many emotions over the next few days/months. Still hits hard now on some days, but the memories help. Took me quite some time to remember DF like he was before he was ill, but they are my enduring memories now.

Take care.

WanderleyWagon · 05/09/2021 21:05

please accept a hug and my sincerest condolences.

RainAndGreyClouds · 08/09/2021 21:45

I'm so sorry for your loss Flowers

My mum is dying right now. I'm in hospital with her. She's on painkillers and sleeping most of the time. Xx

Ikeptgoing · 12/09/2021 01:36

That so sad, I hope you are ok OP xxx
Very sad to lose a parent xxx

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