Paralysed dad

[Staragain]

Hi my dad had a life changing accident 6 months ago and is now paralysed from the chest down. After a huge effort in a rehabilitation hospital, he is now home. With a massive care package thankfully. Carers come 4 times a day.
My sibling and I are on holidays at the minute to help him settle in, but will be back in work next week. My mum is with him at home.
However he is so so nervous now he's at home. He's very angry..... at his situation but is taking it out on us.
How can we help him? Any tips? It's only been 5 days since he's got home but I really didn't expect this. I suppose all our energy (and his) was taken up with getting him home. Very naive I know.
Thanks for any help.

I can't suggest anything practical but I understand how it must be very difficult. From experience with my mum (very different issues) I know how it can be so wonderful to know that he/she will be home and then find it so challenging. All the excitement about the return disappears and you are left with someone who is almost a stranger.

Do you and your sibling live at home?

So sorry about your dad. My husband got paralyzed (quadriplegic) 6yrs ago from a car accident. The first year was tough for him, so depressed and crying. It's really a major change when you used to do everything for yourself, now you depend on people. Church really helped us, they would pray for him, encourage him to trust in God. I think being there for your dad, encourage him to be hopeful and understand where his anger is coming from would help. God bless your dad.

How are your DO and DM managing now @Staragain? I can imagine it's very challenging for all of you

Sorry, posted too soon.

Sorry to hear about your DH too @Coolhand2

That's incredibly hard for him to come to terms with. Would you be able to get some psychology input? Very difficult on the NHS I would think but a massive part of him moving forward will be how he deals with it. You might also need some help in dealing with the new him.

Does he have an Occupational Therapist? They might be able to help getting him back or involved in something that's meaningful to him.