Care debates after a mini stroke

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My auntie has had a mini stroke and has been discharged from hospital. My Mum thinks the way forward is auntie travels to her house for care 250 miles away / 5 hour ish drive thanks to the traffic (hints have been dropped that l facilitate this -l live 1.5 hours from auntie). I disagree as auntie will have appointments in her local area and my mum's house doesn't have a downstairs toilet, unlike at my aunties. Plus Auntie has just had a stroke which isn't really compatible with sitting in a car for hours. Is it even possible to transfer care between areas? I assume that a GP switch would be needed to do that? Then there is a risk of her GP not accepting her back as a patient
I work full time in healthcare, so does my partner and auntie is very worried about COVID. Mum and auntie are both retired and in late 60's, backstory of my mum being keen to delegate things to other people -especially me! We are moving house imminently and doing an IVF transfer in August so lots going on. I don't mind transporting auntie to my Mum's but it is a one-way offer thanks to a busy summer and l also don't think it is even the right course of action?!

It would seem far more sensible for your mother to provide care (in the sense of another person in the house, meals etc rather than physical care if it's a mini stroke) in your auntie's home.

@ditalini yeah that's exactly what l mean -getting to appointments, cooking, washing etc. The slurring is starting to wear off and hopefully the arm weakness will soon.

When you say a mini stroke, do you mean a TIA? They are called a mini stroke and recovery is quick. I've had two. A full blown stroke either a blood clot or a bleed would require care afterwards, but she should be fine looking after herself after a mini stroke.

@Iwantcauliflowercheese yes, a TIA / mini stroke. Recovery hasn’t been that rapid -as the stroke was a few days ago but she is still slurring and has arm weakness. The other complication is she has an extensive history of DVT’s, spanning over 10 years and is on warfarin. Plus her mental health isn’t great

[quote EL8888]@Iwantcauliflowercheese yes, a TIA / mini stroke. Recovery hasn’t been that rapid -as the stroke was a few days ago but she is still slurring and has arm weakness. The other complication is she has an extensive history of DVT’s, spanning over 10 years and is on warfarin. Plus her mental health isn’t great[/quote]
That does make a difference. I took about six months to recover fully from my first. The second was faster, but I managed without any extra help. I assume that she's being medicated for her blood clot problems. I was after the first and that's why the second wasn't so bad. Her mental health is obviously an issue. She's much younger than me so should recover well before too long. My speech improved in around a month. My balance was the worst problem so I used a stick to prevent falls. I really hope she gets well soon.

Yes, she is on warfarin and has regular outpatient appointments for that to check her levels etc. I’m assuming they will want to see her ASAP as it appears her medication isn’t right

Of course your mum is keen to delegate and make it someone else's problem!
However, you work full time end of story, let someone else pick this up

@QioiioiioQ indeed! My mum has ignored my message despite reading it, suggesting that she must be raging -she’s a prolific message sender normally. My brother has failed to read any of our messages for over 24 hours. Aaaah always fun when the typical family dynamics / habits play out!

My mum has ignored my message despite reading it
she's ignoring you which gives you grounds to continue ignoring her:)
You have a nice stable stalemate which gives you peace & quiet so you can get on with your life:)

@QioiioiioQ exactly I’m now going back to trying to understand a structural engineers report about a house we are buying

You can phone/email surveyors and engineers when you've paid for a report if you want anything clarified. It's okay to do this as it's part of what you are paying for.