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Toddlerteaplease · 04/05/2021 11:49

After a year of stress. I've finally managed to open a current account for my friend in a nursing home. Because he's not swapping from a current account, the bank can't switch automatically. He has 3 pensions. I don't know where to start getting them swapped. Any ideas?

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dementedpixie · 04/05/2021 11:57

You mean 3 pensions pay into the account?
They need to contact the pension providers to change the bank account details they have now to go into

Toddlerteaplease · 04/05/2021 12:45

Yes. I've managed to track down two of them.

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3then2t0day321 · 06/05/2021 08:26

You need to write to the pension company with old account & new account & make a formal request

Toddlerteaplease · 08/05/2021 11:58

So, he has no idea if his national insurance number. Or what type of pension his other pensions are. So I'm at a loss of what to do next. He no longer has an allocated social worker.

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dementedpixie · 08/05/2021 12:00

www.gov.uk/lost-national-insurance-number for finding NI number

What do the credits say on his bank statement?

weaselwords · 08/05/2021 12:04

Do you have lasting power of attorney? If not, does he have the mental capacity to make the decision that he wants you to be his lasting power of attorney?

Toddlerteaplease · 09/05/2021 04:41

No I Don't have LPA, and I'm not going to get it. I have absolutely had enough of trying to sort out his affairs. Which could have been avoided if he'd sorted it out himself, when I suggested years ago that he needed too.
He has a son, but he lives a long way away and isn't that involved.
I'm willing to be his friend, but have been pushed to the limit by trying to sort him out and can't do it any more. He's not my parent at the end of the day.
The other issue is that he has no proper ID. Which makes things more difficult.

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weaselwords · 09/05/2021 14:39

@Toddlerteaplease

No I Don't have LPA, and I'm not going to get it. I have absolutely had enough of trying to sort out his affairs. Which could have been avoided if he'd sorted it out himself, when I suggested years ago that he needed too. He has a son, but he lives a long way away and isn't that involved. I'm willing to be his friend, but have been pushed to the limit by trying to sort him out and can't do it any more. He's not my parent at the end of the day. The other issue is that he has no proper ID. Which makes things more difficult.
You’ve got a real uphill struggle then. Can you contact social services as they can help you with some of this?
Toddlerteaplease · 10/05/2021 19:37

I'll have to contact social services again. I've really had enough of trying to sort this out.

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bungabungaboo · 10/05/2021 19:45

CAB and Age UK are also helpful.

I feel your pain op, my parents were like this and i persevered but understand there are limits when it is your friend- good luck!

weaselwords · 11/05/2021 09:30

Thinking about it, the nursing home should be able to guide you too. They are generally quite good around finances.

I can hear how much this is affecting you in your posts. It may be time for you to disengage for your own stress levels. If your friend is in a nursing home they will be looked after ok.

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