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I’m a mess.

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Holhunt · 27/04/2021 21:14

Hi all, I’m posting on here because I’m genuinely feeling so lost about life at the moment.
Basically my Nan who is 72 has brought me up since I was 12 (alcoholic mum who passed away dad walked out on me when I was 6 weeks old) it’s a pretty long story but my Nan is basically my mum and has been for 13 years and she’s my world. Very recently she’s started what we believe ‘hearing voices’, she can hear the neighbour saying he’s going to kill all her family, calling her a whore and ugly and that she stinks, she’s heard him talk about killing his ex wife’s new husband (his ex wife doesn’t have a husband) and all sorts of other not very nice things. We are pretty certain it’s in her head because literally not one other person can hear it, me and pretty much all of my family have been round when she says she can hear it and we can’t even hear a muffle and she’s telling us word for word what she can hear. She actually confronted her neighbour about it and he was flabbergasted to say the least. But to cut a long story short she’s now determined he’s put cameras in her house and he’s watching her, she whispers when you go to see her because she thinks he’s got listening devices in her house. She said she was in bed a couple of nights ago and heard him say ‘I can see your feet sticking out of bed’ and then she pulled them back in and he said ‘now you’ve pulled them back in’. I’ve looked all over the house there is definitely no cameras or listening devices it would be impossible for him to put them in anyway. I’m heartbroken at the thought of my Nan being poorly but what makes it worse is she genuinely does not believe anything is wrong with her, she’s even been to the police about
her neighbour and they are suppose to be doing a search of his house in the next few days to see if they can find anything, but she still won’t accept anything is wrong if they don’t find anything (she’s already said she knows he’s going to hide all his equipment he’s using). We’ve rang the crisis team she said if anybody from there comes to the house she’ll slam the door in there face. She won’t go to the doctors she won’t speak to anybody she really believes this 60 year old man next door is out to get her. I have no idea what to do, I have an 11 month old son and I feel such a rubbish mum to him because when I’m with him I’m constantly
Upset and probably not interacting and playing with him as much as I should. He’s already a daddy’s boy (which I have no issue with at all I love that he has an amazing bond
With his dad) but I’m scared he’s going to hate me and just love his dad because he’s better with him than me atm.
I have no idea what I’m expecting back to this post I just want to know I’m not failing my son and I’m doing right by my Nan at the same time 😞 thank you for taking your time to read my story.

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Weenurse · 04/09/2021 00:51

So sorry you are going through this 💐

Holhunt · 04/09/2021 00:54

@Weenurse honestly hun don’t be sorry. I know it could be so much worse I feel quite lucky that even though she’s not herself and our relationship is crappy I still get to see her which is more than some can say for their grandparents/parents, maybe one day she’ll accept help and we can pick up where we left off but until then I will battle on through the days 🖤

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