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Elderly parents

Copd covid and elderly parent.

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sweetiepie1979 · 25/04/2021 11:01

I’m living far away from my father right now and I am trying to understand his diagnosis he is being well cared for. I don’t know what to think. He is 83 with copd 5 weeks ago he had phnemonia which he was treated for at home by respiratory team for 5 days. 3 weeks ago he had his first vaccine for covid. A few days ago he felt very unwell he was taken to hospital by ambulance they said he had phnemonia again and he also tested positive for covid. He was sent home to isolate and a respiratory team are seeing him 3 times again tearing him with iv antibiotics and steroid. We think this is either day 7 or 10 so far they felt he has been improving but this morning more breathless and didn’t sleep well last night. He also has some heart failure arteries in his legs quite blocked. He has dropped to 8.5 stone and is struggling g to swallow this week though my mum is managing to make him eat. What are his survival chances of covid is my question? Is this just an uncomfortable wait to see what will happen or is the writing on the wall? Thank you for taking the time to read this has anyone any experience or knowledge with this kind of situation? Thank you

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FluffyFluffyClouds · 25/04/2021 11:58

IANAD but from my experience the doctors often have seen so much variation in outcomes that even they are never 100% sure about what to predict.
It doesn't sound good though and if I were you I would be making a working assumption that he might not get through this.

You don't say how far away you are but it may be that if his doctors are prepared to write you a suitable letter you would get permission to travel (check what the criteria are first to make sure they confirm the necessary facts in the letter).

In any event you can hopefully at least call/facetime or similar (even if your Dad can't take part, you can provide moral support to your Mum) and buy/arrange stuff remotely for them. Do the online shopping, send treats or practical things, produce shortlists of care agencies and get quotes etc.

If he has heart failure and is in the UK check with his GP as many local groups have a community heart nurse service. My Mum loved her heart nurse!

If it doesn't upset you too much, check everything is in order should he pass away. It was reassuring that Mum and I had discussed this sort of thing and we knew where her will was, where her paperwork was etc (and in fact I got 3 quotes from different undertakers for her funeral, just as she'd always taught me).

It's a very odd time and worse when you just can't be sure how things will go, but I certainly found it helped a lot to concentrate on doing what little I definitely could do to help.
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sweetiepie1979 · 25/04/2021 13:05

Thank you @fluffyfluffyclouds I’m in Scotland he is n. Ireland I have brothers and sisters who are there who are doing a brilliant job of everything like that so we are lucky in that respect his care seems to be second to none also. I think I need to wait a few days to see what is going to happen like you say I’d be as well face timing at the moment but I’ll get thinking about arrangements to see him though. Xx

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BunnyRuddington · 26/04/2021 21:00

I don’t have any experience of COVID but just wanted to see how your DF is doing today and how are you?

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