My DF died nearly 2 years ago and after much procrastination my 82yo mum has finally moved out of the family home and into a flat in sheltered accom 5 minutes from us.
She is obviously unsettled at the moment and I am probably panicking prematurely, but she is sooo needy. She seems to have no idea how to entertain herself. She won't watch TV until after 6 (it's always been the rule since the 70s!). She doesn't read, she has no interests and can't entertain herself. She also rejects any forms of technology as 'too complicated', without even trying. Her life purpose was looking after my dad. Now she's clueless. Incidentelly he worshipped her, though he would admit himself that she could be 'very difficult' at times.
I was excited about her moving to her new flat. My sister and I arranged all the removals and made it all lovely before she stepped foot inside. Her first comment 'oh it's cold' and 'it could do with some pictures', then a sort of ongoing sulk. She's obviously nervous about it all. But her ability to push my buttons means I'm permanently feeling guilty and on edge. My sister - who she's always had a tricky relationship with - thinks she's narcissistic and slmply can't compute if things aren't revolving around her. Which actually makes sense now I've had more exposure recently.
I was hoping she'd make some friends and embrace her new town but so far all I've heard is moaning and self-pity and it's worrying the hell out of me. Obviously lock down isn't helping her make friends.
Am I panicking prematurely??.