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Care paid for by local authority in another borough?

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independent98 · 19/02/2021 08:00

My mother is currently in hospital due to a fall. She had a care packages at home in the past which didn't work out and she discharged herself due to a category of failures by the care providers.
My mum's health and general well being has been declining and has now stated that she wants to go into a home. My aunty has offered to have my mum live with her temporarily as long as the local authority can continue to provide care support in her home until a suitable home can be found.

My mum gets her care paid for by her local authority whereas my aunty lives in a different borough.
Is this something that can be done?

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BunnyRuddington · 19/02/2021 12:29

It possibly can be done but I really wouldn't recommend it.

Why can't a suitable home be found before discharge?

SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 19/02/2021 12:34

I presume the hospital are wanting the bed, and maybe pressuring you her to go without a proper package being in place? The advice seems to be to stand firm against that. Someone with more knowledge will be along soon hopefully, but I understand that 'temporary' arrangements will be tolerated longer than they should be.

independent98 · 19/02/2021 15:28

My mother doesent want to return home because she is unable to cope and has had care at home in the past which didn't work out. We don't want her to stay in hospital longer than neccesary due to the pandemic and we all want to spend time with her before she goes into a home as my understanding is visitation is limited and it also gives us some extra time to find a care home which is suitable for her needs. Staying with my aunty would only be short term as she is 75 and wouldn't be able to have my mum for an extended period of time. My mum requires 24 hour care as she has legs ulcers plus she is a diabetic.
I am glad that is possible for care to be provided cross boroughs but why do you advise against it?

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SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 20/02/2021 09:01

Partly to bump the thread for you... I see what you are saying about being able to visit your mother in covid times. I know it isn't what you asked, but I'm wondering what would happen if a home couldn't be found fairly soon, and it was too much for your aunt to be looking after your mother? I know this is a pessimistic view but... Hopefully someone will be able to answer the question about the funding.

independent98 · 21/02/2021 07:38

Update: it has been determined that my mum's needs are greater than it was before and as a family it would be extremely difficult to support my mum at home. Unfortunately it means that my mum will have to go into a home as she requires 24 hour care. We are at the point of discharge planning and now starting the process of requesting that a suitable care home facility is found.

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BunnyRuddington · 21/02/2021 07:59

Going into a care home isn't the end of the world and fir my DMIL it's actually been helpful. She's still very confused but DFIL wasn't coping with her at home and we'd realised too late that this was causing a lot of friction and upset.

She's in a lovely home that genuinely seem very caring. Don't go on how the home looks though. DMIL's looks a bit shabby but it's small so all the staff know her and like I said, they seem caring and interested in her.

MereDintofPandiculation · 21/02/2021 11:54

She's in a lovely home that genuinely seem very caring. Don't go on how the home looks though. DMIL's looks a bit shabby but it's small so all the staff know her and like I said, they seem caring and interested in her.

I second this. I normal times I'd say look for happy staff and watch how they interact with other residents, I guess at the moment the most useful thing you could do is ask about staff turnover.

BunnyRuddington · 21/02/2021 13:58

I guess at the moment the most useful thing you could do is ask about staff turnover.

Also read lots of reviews. The one thing that really was consistent in the reviews for MILs hoke was how happy everyone is.

I'd also look at lots of different homes in the area so that if the SW and discharge clerk say she's going into a certain home, you'll have a good idea of what it's like.

SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 21/02/2021 14:23

That must be worrying for you independent. The rules are changing so that some visits are going to be allowed. This isn't ideal, but is an improvement (socially) on the situation before.

independent98 · 21/02/2021 15:34

Thank you all for the messages and support. It's going to be hard but it is the right next step.

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