Experience of kidney failure?

[sothisisit2021]

Hello, my father is very secretive about his health but has recently become very ill and weak. It transpires he has stage 4 kidney failure and has done for some time now. He has a catheter, water retention, water on his lungs, repeated diahorreah and is incredibly sleepy. He's in a care home. Does anyone have any experience of how this might go for him? We are playing catch up with his symptoms and can't see him because of lockdown

Sorry to hear your father is ill. I have no advice but am watching with interest as my grandma has also be diagnosed with stage 3 kidney failure along with a whole host of other things.

Yes - my Mum had diabetes, then heart failure, and the diuretics to treat that eventually triggered kidney failure.
I was expecting her to eventually lose consciousness and not wake up, and I believe that can happen. However kidney failure also messes with the potassium etc levels in the blood, the electrolytes, which cause heart rhythm irregularities.
www.news-medical.net/amp/health/Electrolyte-disturbance-and-acute-kidney-failure.aspx
So in her case, we all knew it was days if that, but the end was very sudden - cardiac arrest while the nurses were sorting out toileting for her - they got us back in the room very quickly but she was unconscious and passed away a couple of minutes later.
She had had such awful fluid on the legs that her poor legs were leaking and she'd had diarrhoea (that was the excuse for moving her into a side room, though probably also because she was dying).

I thought if people were dying then some relatives were supposed to be able to see them, is that not the case where you are?

Perhaps other posters can advise on that. I lost Mum late 2019 so before all this.

Thank you for answering. So sorry for the loss of your mum

Hi sothisisit2021

My own father has end stage kidney failure and has been having dialysis for the past year now, he decided to take a break from his treatment before Xmas and became extremely ill after a few days of missing his dialysis, fluid retention in his lungs etc he was admitted to hospital by ambulance after he became delirious. He also has heart failure and this all stemmed from diabetes earlier in his life. But after a months stay in hospital he is now home and continues with his dialysis treatment although we have been told it really isn't going to last for much longer as his urine output is now nil. Has your dad been seen by kidney specialist for dialysis treatment? I'm so sorry op, it is so hard when you can't get to see him

Condolences fluffyfluffyclouds on the loss of your mum such a hard time 💐

Hello, thank you. He died today.

Sorry for your loss.

I am so so sorry sothosisit2021 x

So sorry for your loss

So sorry to hear that sothosisit2021. I hope he was well cared for in his last illness. x

Thank you all. Yes, he was well cared for at the care home

So very sorry to read this