Hand hold please

[Bluemascara4]

Hello everyone .

My parents are both 76 and have been together since school.

Six months ago, mum was diagnosed with metastatic cancer and deteriorated rapidly yesterday which has led to her being admitted to hospital .

As she's being treated for sepsis and not yet palliative, due to covid rules she's not allowed visitors . My dad lives 30 miles from the hospital and has gone to pieces ( understandable) but I'm so worried . Dad can't retain any information suddenly, maybe due to shock .

I'm not sure why I'm posting .... just wanted to write it down xxx

Hand hold, OP.
The reality of your DM’s diagnosis may have become very real yesterday for your DF, added by his concern and likely lack of sleep/ stress. Hopefully, today he is able to retain some information. Sending best wishes to all three of you

I am so very sorry. That is a very difficult situation.

That's so sad, I'm sorry to hear about your mum. Agree your dad may be in shock.
Its awful you're not allowed to visit.

Hand hold OP. I’m so very sorry to hear this. Sending my best wishes to you all. Keep posting OP if it’s helping you xx

So sorry to hear this - I understand the visiting rules, but it's very hard on everyone.

Thank you so much all🌺

It's just so frustrating not being with her x

Do you have someone to care for you?

@OhioOhioOhio sadly not really . I have a STBEX and a ten year old x

I don't know what to say except we are listening and keep sharing

Yes. Keep sharing. We are here. You don't want to unnecessarily burden your 10 year old. Is there a place in the day that could be just for you? A hot bath? A chapter of your favourite book?

I'm so sorry. How far are you from the hospital? Would your dad be able to stay with you for a while?

@HollowTalk I'm about 20 miles away.

Thank you for replying all. Knowing that I'm not alone x

I'm being up beat and cheerful ( and faking an interest in mine craft ) for my son .

While ds was having screen time ..... I managed to watch an episode of The Crown . I'd recommend . Mum would have enjoyed it too . She's a little bit better this evening

It's so hard not being able to with someone. You can ask the ward if they can arrange for you and your dad to speak with her on the phone if you feel it would help any of you and she's able to. It may not be suitable but don't hesitate to ask them to keep in touch with you as often as you need. Sending biggest of hugs x