Have to get mum out of nursing home... but how?

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Last month, my mum (who has never seemed elderly to me before!) suffered a medical incident and has gone from being fit and healthy to being dependent on 24 hour nursing care in a residential nursing home. I am still trying to get a handle on her nursing needs but they are significant. She has also lost capacity and I’m not sure of what she is aware of. She was assessed for a hospice but wasn’t a candidate as no one knows how long she will live. It’s likely to be weeks/months rather than days as the condition progresses... but equally if she has another medical episode she could go at any time.

We are not allowed to visit her at all in the nursing home. We are very upset by this and the thought of her slowly dying alone is killing me. She once made me promise never to send her up a home and now we’re in this position.

How on earth do I get her home? Is 24 hour home nursing possible? I will try to start the process If getting her back as soon as I can but what do I need to be aware of? Will the NHS fund it? Do I contribute?

Has anyone been here before?

Hospices - generally are for end with of life(two weeks or less) or palliative symptom control, rehab etc.
Length of stay is not normally for more that a couple of weeks.
End of life can mean lots of things. In this situation it sound like it means that there is no treatment option that will make her better.

Looking after a relative at home is not a simple task. Sometimes you need to take the emotion out and be more rational. Will you be able to give her the level of care she requires?

Some hospices are working towards teaching families to care for loved ones at home, moving and handling training, personal care etc.

Not all hospices are allowing visitors either. Most are keeping it to one or two named visitors.