I feel like I'm losing my mind with my elderly parents.
Df, nearly 91, in pretty good shape mentally but not great physically. Has end stage renal failure, has had numerous falls resulting in broken bones (including his back recently) and cannot walk. He's had a stair lift fitted, door in the bath, has a walker etc.
The problem is my mother, 15 years his junior. COPD which is very poorly controlled and she still smokes. Has frequent dizzy spells for which she refuses to seek help and is becoming increasingly forgetful and at times aggressive with it. I suspect dementia. She cannot stand the fact she might need to help my dad a little and has informed him she will not be caring for him at all (in much the same way that she informed me that she would never babysit which she's stuck to in the 13 years since dc1 was born but that's another thread!)
Me and dh do what we can. We both work ft and have dc. We live locally so get shopping in etc. Their neighbours look out for them too. I have come to dread the daily call of what's happened and new ways that my mother has annoyed my father (yesterday was that she sorts out his pill sorter thing and decided not to tell him he'd run out of something on the grounds it would be hard to reorder). On that, they refuse to do anything electronically even though they actually do have devices at home. I spent about an hour yesterday urging them to sort out electronic prescriptions and prescription delivery.
I just need to offload all of this. I feel like a crap daughter atm but I'm being driven crazy!