So... father in law went into a home at the end of Jan. His health is deteriorating - he had an undiagnosed UTI infection a couple of months ago and started falling frequently - he was told to just move with assistance which quickly turned to put in a wheelchair as it's easier and has now lost all mobility. He started getting delirious which cleared up after a couple of rounds of antibiotics and then got hospitalised with pneumonia and went back to the home where he was isolated due to a Covid case.
The home opened up for visits a couple of months ago, which you can book, so DP has been up a few times which is the max he was allowed. He is starting to get confused - it's never completely gone away since the infections a couple of months ago although there are plenty of totally lucid chats too. His confusion is always around a common theme - to pick him up as he is stranded somewhere and can't get home. It's heartbreaking. He had an appointment at the home with a district nurse and has apparently agreed to a DNR. DP was due to visit on Tuesday but visits have now been stopped again. DP is wracked with guilt over the home anyway and that he can see his dad deteriorating and can't help. He was providing regular care prior to him going into a home. DP doesn't want to bring him back as worried how will manage him here with bathroom upstairs etc and risk of Covid etc with kids being at school.
Why would someone sign a DNR if they are not in hospital or at end of life? DP thinks it's a sign his dad has given up.