Hi everyone,
We have two sets of parents who are over 100 miles of us in different directions. Due to their ages, late 60’s to 70’s, and the fact my FIL does have a heart condition, we have so far decided it is best not to visit either of them, and have also for them not to visit us, as we live in a small property without our own garden, so social distanced visits apart from sitting out in the communal area, are not possible. My FIL was quite upset when we declined an invite to stay with him a little while back , however, we felt it was the best decision at the time, as it was just after that lockdown measures had been eased and we felt it was still a risk, primarily to him as he is 77 and also has the heart issue.
My parents, however, made things very difficult by inviting themselves for three nights at the end of the month. The stress of this is compounded by the fact they live between two areas of local lockdowns and have by and large resumed normal life, including going to eat out inside places and visiting the local town to wander around there. Obviously, this is their prerogative, and nothing to do with me really. When I raised my concern about the visit, including the fact that any one of us might have been exposed to the virus, my mum was very manipulative saying she will never see her grandchild again, making me feel totally rubbish about my concern. Compounding this, is the fact my partner thinks a visit would give them preferential treatment over everyone else, who also haven’t seen their grandchild for a very long time, either!
Sorry for the long message! Has anyone experienced a similar situation, and for have you dealt with it?