I got a txt this morning from a cousin inviting me to a commemoration of his Mum who died a year ago. This will be over 2 hours drive away, and I guess he is including my father, brother of the deceased in the invitation. My father is 92. He lives alone, with help from me. This help includes getting him to family gatherings etc. I have never relished this, but Coronavirus adds a whole different dimension. I would need to drive him there and back. I visit him but observe social distancing and hand hygiene. I have no insight into what the plans for the gathering are but I estimate it to be 30 people plus. Another cousin recently asked us to a funeral, but due to the distance and guidance at the time not to travel outside our region, we did not go. My father will want to go, but shows limited interest in how to mind yourself during covid pandemic. The fact my cousins are even organising this tells me something about their views. I live in Ireland where r is below 1 at present, but to me it feels too much. My father is a more carpe diem type. Help, go or Not?