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Care home visits

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Marshmallow09er · 17/05/2020 14:40

I know there are a few threads on this, but we're finding this very hard. Is anyone else in the same situation?

My stepdad went into a carehome just before lockdown and since then the care home have shielded and shut down all visitors.

He's late stage dementia and very frail. He's been admitted twice to hospital since being there for UTI infections as getting fluids into him. Both times he's been tested for Covid (neg) so allowed back into carehome but has to stay in his room for 2 weeks.

My mum is finding it all so very hard. She's on her own and not in best health herself.

She hasn't been able to visit my stepdad since lockdown and is so terrified he's going to die without her ever being able to see him again.
They do FaceTime etc but he can't really respond anymore.

I feel so sad for her. I just don't know if there is any solution as I can't see them allowing visitors any time soon.

It's taking a huge toll on her mental health.

We wondered if there was any way she could be tested for Covid herself and if neg they would allow her in wearing PPE, just to see him.

He's poorly again today so they are getting him to see a Dr again tomorrow. I do think he's getting more and more frail and her concerns are very valid.

I can't even visit my mum to give her support (I don't live locally).

Is anyone else in a similar situation?

OP posts:
Rinsefirst · 17/05/2020 17:09

I’d phone the care home on Monday and ask if they have any suggestions and tell them how fragile your DM has become . Depending on how frail her step dad is and how everyone else is being isolated it might be totally impossible. But who knows they might have downstairs rooms with balconies onto the car park area which are vacated? Some homes have more outdoor areas than others.

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