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Elderly parents

Social Services and 97 year old grandad...

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Skade · 18/03/2020 17:42

I sort out all the care needs for my grandad who is 97 and who normally lives independently on his own with twice a day care. My mum is 69 but has Alzheimers so the care has naturally fallen to me. He was admitted to hospital on Boxing Day having spent a whole week repeatedly falling at home and injuring himself. He spent a month in hospital and was then discharged to an NHS short term rehabilitation care home where they were going to work on his mobility with a view to getting him home.

While he has been in the home he has become increasingly confused (last week he told me he had been discharged from hospital as he had made one of the nurses pregnant!), and his mobility has worsened.

I have had an email from his social worker today saying that he still has capacity and wants to go home, and how was I planning to sort out his package of care? She also stated that she had reviewed his night records at the home and he also needed support with overnight, as he gets up frequently to use the toilet. She has offered me to apply for a commissioned package of care (4 x daily with overnight care) from Social Services, but I have serious concerns about a 97 year old going home to live on his own in the current climate!

Firstly, what if I can't get food to him? The supermarket shelves locally were all empty today. What if his carers become sick, or I become sick? He will be stuck on his own with limited mobility and increasing confusion. My feeling is that he is far safer where he is at present, and that we should be keeping him there until the worst is over, regardless of his mental capacity. Is anyone else have similar issues? Am I within my rights to ask that he stays where he is?

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Bargebill19 · 18/03/2020 17:48

They can’t force you to take this on. Say no, loudly and repeatedly if you don’t want it. Sounds like they need to properly review his case, or they are trying to see if this package will work as it’s likely to be cheaper than a care home - assuming there is an available place.
But please remember hospital are needing to discharge every single patient they can due to needing the capacity to cope with the predicted covid-19 patients. Plus, he is probably going to be safer at home (self isolating) out of hospital, from the point of view of the likelihood of catching the virus.
It’s most likely a least worst option sadly.

teacherwidow · 18/03/2020 17:55

From a social work side: this is a reaction because of excess caseloads and high work levels.
I would suggest to keep a diary of his comments and behaviours, and ask what they would support with if he became ill/ had a serious injury then email the social worker all of this information. If god forbid something terrible happened; you are then likely to have a case to demonstrate you were not supported and social care didn't provide a duty or care.
Do not ever feel like you have to deal with this on your own. If this isn't helpful, ask for a copy of the councils Deprivation of Liberty policy and ask for an Independent Visitor/ adult advocate to support. Winex

teacherwidow · 18/03/2020 18:00

Duty of care**

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