We are very worried for her and would appreciate any advice.
She is 92 and though has not been formally diagnosed with dementia has severe memory problems and since having a few falls the needed hospitalisation had an episode at Christmas where she suddenly could not walk so was hospitalised again for 6 weeks.
She previously had a carer four times a day but we have stepped this up to full time as she cannot be left alone. She just gets up and starts walking with her frame aimlessly then tries to find the chair again to sit but needs guiding to do this.
We have a bed in the lounge now with sides so she cannot get out, but she has a catheter still in (which is being assessed next week).
We really do not know what to do next, I suppose she would need a care home? but it seems awful after everything being set up at home for her. She seems healthy enough apart from her walking and memory, she is like a child really.
I suppose I am just asking if anyone has been through any thing similar? She lives alone but about half a hour from us. We couldn't care for her full time as both work and need to work. She is self-funding as she has savings and owns her own house.
I have contacted care homes but they seem to not want someone with dementia. Also they want proof that she can pay for up to 4 years, surely owning her own house would cover this?
Am just very confused what is best for her. I would like her to remain at home but her carers keep saying she needs a home. I think the change would be horrible for her. There's no support or no-one to advise us. Her dr seems to think we could step down the care from full time to four times a day which to me would just be asking for her to have a fall again. :( the dr has not even seen her. Any advice would be good, Thank you.