I did twice visiting when my dad was ill and died 100 miles away, more than my sister and brother though I wasnt the closest,but not nearly as much as my uncle who was about 20 mins away. But the whole thing only lasted 5 weeks.
I do very little for my godmother who's been in hospital or respite for 10 months but did try to go at least weekly when she was in hospital an hour from me. (Im a single parent with a job). Since she moved 2.5 hours from me and my dad got ill the same time i havent seen her, but her nephew has taken over.
I try to see my mum once a week but dont always manage it, she is independent but a bit lonely and I'm the closest.
My mother in law is in a nursing home, I aim to see her and my FIL at least once a month. My brother in law goes twice a month, it's a long journey. His sister barely goes at all and I know my FIL is upset about that. But shes not too well herself, I should try to see her more often.
My demented aunts I dont see any more. My sane aunt in America who is a full time carer gets a weekly email.
So nobody gets much from me, obviously phone calls though, but there's so bloody many of them all crumbling at once.