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I started the elderly parents section about 8 years ago and I'm glad it's still helpful

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ssd · 09/12/2019 22:53

I was alone in looking after mum, well I had siblings but they were far away and useless. I was going slowly nuts. None of my friends were in the same boat or even close to it. So in desperation I asked mn to have a place where we could rant, cry, empathise with others in the same boat. And they said yes and this section was started. And I'm glad it's helped so many of us.
Actually I feel quite proud.

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lotsofstripes · 09/12/2019 22:58

You should feel proud I lurk on this section quite a bit and take a lot of comfort from many of the wise words shared. I’m sure many people feel the same Thank you.

Iamalltheyhavenow · 09/12/2019 22:58

You should feel very proud. I dip in and out of the Elderly Parents board frequently- I am not quite yet in a position of need with my DP's ( though at 88 and 86 it can't be far off!) but I find all the posts very useful, and am storing away the stories and possible remedies for future reference. Well done you!

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ssd · 10/12/2019 10:32

Thanks. I'm just really glad it's helped so many of us. It's so difficult dealing with elderly parents. You become the mum, instead of the child. 😟

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NaToth · 10/12/2019 12:32

Agreed. You should feel proud. I have been meaning to come on here for some time to thank everyone for the support I had during the six years that my MIL had dementia. I didn’t post very often, but I read the posts every day and learnt so much about what should be happening. I don’t think I could have got through the last six years without this forum. Long may you continue to welcome the desperate and the exhausted with your robust advice and validation. Thank you.

exiledfromcornwall · 10/12/2019 16:49

Thank you so much from me also. I don't know what I would have done over the last couple of years without the excellent advice from the lovely people on this forum

thesandwich · 10/12/2019 19:15

A big thanks from me too ssd this section has been a life saver for me over many years.
Feel rightly proud of yourself!!!🌺🌺🌺🍷🍷🍷

RonniePasas · 10/12/2019 19:20

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maddywest · 11/12/2019 09:02

I catch up every morning and have had some fantastic support and help, both in response to my own posts and even more often through responses to other people's posts. It gives strength through community.

MereDintofPandiculation · 11/12/2019 09:47

Yes, this is my lifeline. I tried the local carers group, but everyone else seemed to be spouses dealing at home with their demented spouse 24/7, and it made me feel very inadequate visiting my father only every 3 days. So this is my support group and source of information.

AutumnRose1 · 11/12/2019 20:50

Ssd, I can’t thank you enough

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ssd · 11/12/2019 22:10

Aww thanks. You are all so very welcome

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Awks · 17/12/2019 03:17

Think I might be needing you all soon, sadly

helpfulperson · 20/12/2019 19:47

Sadly my dad passed away a couple of weeks ago but ive found this board a huge help. Unless you are living it its hard for others to understand.

thesandwich · 20/12/2019 21:51

Sorry for your loss helpful 🌺🌺🌺

Hoghgyni · 20/12/2019 23:07

I've dipped in & out under different names. Thank you from me too. This really isn't a topic for AIBU!

FromIbizaToTheNorfolkMaud · 22/12/2019 10:54

Many thanks from me, too. These days, I read more often than I post but the support and advice from people in similar situations has been so helpful.

whataboutbob · 24/12/2019 18:40

SSD this board kept me just about sane over the 5 years or so I had to manage my dad and his dementia. Thank you so much. My dad died 3 years ago on the 2nd of January. My mum died on a 16th of December, 25 years ago so this season is fairly ambiguous for me. M y thoughts are with all those who need this board.

ConfCall · 26/12/2019 17:56

I’m more of a lurker than a poster but I’m very grateful OP.

nitgel · 26/12/2019 17:58

I use it too been at hospital all day with my 92 year old mother in law. Shes ok but not able to walk suddenly
Its so hard x

TheCanterburyWhales · 26/12/2019 22:37

Thank you from me too sad. You too allaboutbob. Under different user names to the one I use now, you got me through my own denial about my mum having dementia, the worst time when she was still Mum one minute and a total stranger the next, to my shamed relief when she went into a home.
You made me feel better about feeling guilty about not feeling guilty (if that makes any sense) having put her in the home.
I don't post as often now, she's still there, a shell...but she's clean and cared for, and the home is amazing.

Thank you.

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ssd · 26/12/2019 23:56

for you all.

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whataboutbob · 27/12/2019 17:51

@TheCanterburyWhales thank you for this tribute. If I have made even a fraction of a difference in someone’s situation it’s worth all the posting and more. So good to hear I gave back a bit. to everyone on here.

RoxytheRexy · 16/01/2020 21:48

Thank you. This board was a fantastic help and support for me when my parents were ill. I seemed to go through it before any of my friends so it was good not to feel alone

littlebillie · 18/01/2020 08:32

It's a great idea many have no one to turn to

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