My dad died in May this year. Initially my mum coped OK but just recently she's not coping so well as the reality is kicking in. She's very lonely and thinks she wants to move into sheltered accommodation.
We have taken her to see a huge range of different flats/ rooms and bungalows in the area. Initially she has seemed keen about a few but then her confidence wains and she's back to wanting to see more... She says none of them are 'ideal' but we've lost track of what that even is. Each one has had a reason for being unsuitable in her eyes. For example, one was 'too remote', so we got another that was in easy walk of a town, but that was 'too posh' etc etc. We've tried a checklist approach so she can evaluate them but common sense seems to have nothing to do with it.
Really the problem is I don't think she's ready. I've tried to get her grief counselling through the hospice where dad died but there's a 2 month wait. She is getting increasingly needy and driving my sister and I a bit mad. We are finding it very difficult trying to help her when she's so negative and won't help herself. She's also trying to convince herself staying in the family home might work, but she has few friends and little community and would expect us to carry on the present level of babysitting and it's all getting too much. My sister and I have to get on with our lives/ work/ family commitments too...
Anyone been through this? Any advice gratefully received...