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Elderly parents

Would you be annoyed at this attitude?

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paulfoel · 06/06/2019 16:08

Background. Brother has a kid from previous relationship. Is now in new relationship.

Bit of spanner in the works recently - he got contacted by social and asked to take custody of his son. (not sure why yet but there are issues with his ex the mother).

Dad told me this. The he said they'd had a chat and Dad had advised him (and he agreed) that because brother works he couldnt have her and he'd have to go into care. WTF!

I must admit I went nuts and told him how disgusting this was. How on earth does he think people with kids manage? Hes in school so its mainly school drop off and pick up anyway.

To be honest, the pair of them disgust me. I just can't speak to Dad at the moment - Im just flabbergasted to be honest..... What a selfish, spiteful old man.

Not that I should be surprised based on how he is mind.

But who on earth would do that? Put work before their kids? Theres a special place in Hell methinks....

Pity Jeremy Kyle is no longer on. I think my scumbag family would be a shoe in!

I always joke and say work comes about 15-16 in list of importance, slightly below the Cats welfare.....

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blackcat86 · 06/06/2019 16:11

If you are the aunt of this child I would be contacting the SW and offering kinship care. Ss will likely bite your hand off. What an awful situation for the child. It sounds like your brother wasnt that involved if he didnt think anything was wrong?

paulfoel · 06/06/2019 16:22

To be honest, my wife has offered to do this. Its an option. Maybe not so easy for us though with family situation.

Also, I know what would happen. It'd let brother off the hook - he'd then not bother at all.

To be honest brother occasionally saw him but not that often. Hes happy to let the mother have him and spend every night in the pub, worry free and forget he ever had a kid.

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ssd · 06/06/2019 18:52

He sounds like he'd be a shit dad to the boy anyway.
I hope you and your wife can step up, you sound decent and caring.

paulfoel · 07/06/2019 09:35

Well, to be honest when he has her hes good with her. But hes like the stereotypical weekend dad.

Waiting to see how things develop....

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paulfoel · 26/06/2019 08:37

This is a classic.....

Off to glastonbury today with wife and 6 year old. Teenager decided he didnt want to come so is staying home with gran. His idea of heaven - unlimited PC gaming.

So Dad, has decided that,

  1. I shouldn't be going to places like Glastonbury because people take drugs there.
  2. Its "not right" that I've left my teenage son at home.
  3. I'm a bad parent because of the above.

This is from the guy who two weeks or so ago, advised my brother to not take on care for his own daughter because "you've got work and too busy to do that".

ARE YOU KIDDING ME?????
FFS my head is going to explode I think!!!!

(For the record, I don't take drugs. Only Cider. OK Imodium maybe but, to be fair, you should see the toilets!)

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