Anyone know anything about old age leukaemia?

[hairychinsrus]

Hello all
Where to start with this one? Back story is that both my parents are narcissistic, there's a long old story in itself that I've had a lot of therapy for and although much better they can still push buttons when I let them. (Although I'm much better at recognition of this)
They both love a drama and playing the victim, my mum has had various health issues but one they "play" on and mention a lot is that she was diagnosed a couple of years with old age leukaemia. I've googled it and can't find much about it but apparently it's really affecting her with regards to tiredness (I suspect this is simply her age) and Dad bring it up a lot "your mothers leukaemia" etc (doesn't mention the old age bit just the leukaemia)
I'm just trying to work out how serious it is as it's really hard trying to get to the bottom of it all.
Does anyone else's parents have this, do you know about it?

Hi hairy. I wonder if they're tm talking about CLL - chronic lymphocytic leukaemia? It's common in older people and does cause fatigue in many people. It does not always require treatment. Many people are on a watch and wait regime. CLLSA is a really good support website in the UK.
Good luck with dealing with your parents.

Ah yes that sounds like it might be, I will have a look at the website.
I think reading back through my post the issue seems to be more around their dramas, trying to inflict guilt and create dramas
But it will help just understanding some simple facts, I can't bear how my Dad goes on about leukaemia when I think she's hasn't got bloody leukaemia in the sense that most people refer to leukaemia, stop playing it up and being over dramatic.

Just as you've identified that your post is more about the dramas than the leukaemia, try and look behind the drama to your parents' needs. Are they perhaps worried about declining capacity, and instead of facing up to the fact that their on a downward slope are instead fixing on the "leukaemia" which perhaps in their minds has a hope of treatment and which they may find more acceptable - an illness causing symptoms as opposed to a decline in her own self from simple old age? If you can look behind it, it may become easier just to let it roll over you.

I've spent best part of the year getting similarly annoyed by my father's "COPD" which seemed to be no more than producing phlegm each morning (and as a lifelong non-smoker he's unlikely to have COPD) ... only for him to be treated for pneumonia with a complete clear up of the phlegm