Not a carer, but someone to pop in daily?

[OldSpeclkledHen]

Hiya

My DM is quite independent (washes/dresses/eats) and has all adaptations (stairlift/shower seats/handrails)

She's just recently been discharged from hospital (bulging disc) which is now being treated with strong painkillers... Social Services have just withdrawn the re-enablement team - as she is too independent...

However, I live 50 miles away, her brothers and sister all live 150+ miles away, so we want some eyes on the ground as it were, just to check on her daily and make sure she's ok (as her overall health issues all combined make her a not well women)

I've contacted Age Uk, they weren't particularly helpful...

Where else can I look for help please?

Also have just been filling out the Attendence Allowance form... I don't think she'd even qualify under that!

Help please! Any advice appreciated! Thank You xx

My mum isn't as self sufficient as yours and now gets 3 daily care visits from carers employed by the local authority but prior to this we got a private home help who we still employ who pops in one day a week to drive her to an activity she goes to, once a week to have a cup of tea and once a week a lady he employs pops in to help mum with any personal care issues she has and when we need it they take mum to appointments - mum doesn't like her daily carers but the private home help she considers as 'friends' so isn't bothered by them.
We found the home help through a notice board at the local hospital but we were also recommended him by someone on the local Facebook group for my mums town (none of us live there so I understand how hard it can be to find people from afar)
We also keep in good contact with her neighbours and friends so if we or they are worried we can contact each other.

Mil lives in her own apartment with communal lounge/gardens

She broke her hip second time and was in hospital then rehab for months. Since she’s come out if there she’s not been the same.
Loss if confidence and no interest

Anyway, when the 6 weeks nhs care was up, it was obvious to us she couldn’t manage. She was having memory problems and wasn’t eating

We got private company in for 2 visits a day 7 days.
They make sure she takes her meds
She she’s ok in herself, drink it make a pre prepared meal in microwave if wanted.
This is £70 a week
Basically, they just give her her meds and fill book in to say so.
If they can there in and out in 5 mins
She was in bed still one time when Carer came , she never asked was there a problem or even made her a drink! Meds and out.

My parents have a carer who does very little personal care - but she is the one who cleans out the fridge, puts cream on dads legs, tells me when they need shopping, is there if social service etc come, makes something for their tea, puts a wash on and so on. They also have a cleaner (organised by the carer) and another lady who takes mum out once a week. They also have a gardener and a handyman.

They were very resistant to the carer at first, but she's what makes it safe for them to be at home - mum can have a bath using the bath lift when the carer is there, but before if she slipped there was no one to get her up. But the carer is 'just making the bed' while mum is in the bath which keeps up a pretense of independence

But the carer is 'just making the bed' while mum is in the bath which keeps up a pretense of independence My dad referred to his carers as "the home help"!