Sorry in advance for such a long post. Not parents, but my grandmother.
She has Type 2 diabetes, severe incontinence, limited mobility and probable dementia, although she has had the test and was not diagnosed as such. Generally, she has lost all sense of time - she'll say she went on holiday last year when it was actually 5 years ago; or she'll say she visited friends recently but she just thought about visiting them, and never actually made the trip.
She has medicine (antidepressants, diabetes tablets, etc) delivered in a dossett box from the pharmacy every week, in order to help her take what she needs to on the correct day. She has a big clock beside the medicine with an arrow showing what day it is. We suspect she only ever manages to take two/three days worth of medicine out of each weekly box. She spends 12 hours in bed each night and refuses to get up to go to the bathroom, so the bed/her clothes are generally covered in solid waste. She refuses to shower and will only strip wash. She will also only eat porridge unless food is made for her, and even then, it's a struggle making her eat it.
I highly suspect that she would benefit significantly if she just took her medication properly and got out of bed earlier. She lives in sheltered accommodation which has art classes and coffee mornings she could attend, but she always misses them because she's still in bed.
We're all too far away from her apartment to be there every day to make sure that she has gotten up, eaten breakfast and taken her medicine. I wondered if there was such a thing as a private nurse that we could hire? There's no space for a live-in carer in her apartment but we'd be willing to pay someone who could come at a set time every morning and make sure she takes her medicine and eats something for breakfast. Is this possible? And where would I find someone like that?