Irritating and hurtful

[Pipsqueak11]

Spent best part of £500 renting a poky cottage for the weekend - drive 5 hrs down m5 yesterday sweating like I don't know what to visit my elderly dad with my dh and dd1 and dd2 .
Go out today with my family and my father . Meet up with my brother his wife and their daughter / my niece who all live 40 mins away .
Feel v upset that my dad dishes out £20 to my niece because he 'doesn't see her very often' and ignores my two. It's true he doesn't see her v often and that's because she doesn't like him and can't be assed.
I've dragged mine away from their mates and feel mightily pissed off for doing so . Of course I haven't said anything as don't want to be grabby but what a twattish thing to do . Grrrr! Just needed to vent!

That's shite, yours should be getting treated too.

Exactly ssd!
I'd never do that to mine. I do wonder why I bother sometimes- he's 90 so gets away with everything but he's completely compos mentis so there's no excuse.

Maybe he's trying to "buy" her love, if he knows she doesn't like him. That doesn't make it right though.

Could be right . I called him earlier and have arranged now to take my 2 to the beach for the day and meet up with him in the evening rather than spend the day altogether- need a break from him else may say something silly

That's rude. And you are right there is a limit - just because someone is older doesn't mean that they should be able to treat your DD's like that.
Next time you know what to do!

He may intend giving it to your two when you leave?

By the time we leave on Monday he'll have forgotten I expect but we'll see. I will let you know

Could you say something to him about it? Gently, I mean?

I saw him today and did mention it - I started to blub a bit which didn't help but this all reminds me of DB being the golden child and now his DD too. Anyway my dad said he'd planned on giving my girls the same today which he did do . I'll never know if it was as a result of me mentioning it or whether it would have happened anyway. No argy bargy or drama just a feeling of sadness - it's too late now to ever change the dynamics and it would be pointless to try . All I can hope is my dds never feel like this about me or dh . Thanks all for your advice / support- it helps a lot.

It's up to us as parents to make sure our kids don't feel the hurts we've felt from our own parents

It's just sad.

Exactly that ssd.