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Elderly parents

Elderly auntie deteriorating

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lardass88 · 29/12/2018 09:33

Hope it's ok to post here.. my lovely aunty is 80, she's the backbone to our family and has been like a granny to me. She lives with my other aunt who has learning difficulties. Over the past year my aunts memory has gotten worse, she forgets who people are and has forgotten great nieces names or even gender. She used to take great pride in her appearance ( pearls, hair permed red lipstick) but has become quite unkempt. My dad is the youngest and sole surviving brother and goes to see both my aunts twice a day and myself and cousins and order aunts always pop in for a cuppa and biscuits. She has always been the one to look after my other aunt but in recents months the roles seem to be reversed. As a family we have of course spoken about her health and are worried but she is a extremely proud lady who won't admit anything is wrong. However this all came to a head last night when she had a fall and my other aunt rang my dad and mum and a ambulance was called. I'm now really worried about the outcome... what will happen to her? What will happen to my other aunt? And what will happen to their house? It's a council house and they have been there since it was built nearly 60 years ago. Sorry for long post

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Grace212 · 29/12/2018 20:08

hi there
sorry to hear this is happening
how is your aunt now?

I wonder if it's worth posting on the main thread - just link to this - as there's lots of posters around with knowledge of what happens in these situations.

Singlenotsingle · 29/12/2018 20:14

If the tenancy is in both their names they'll be able to live there for as long as one of them needs it. Maybe this aunt will go in to hospital, or a care home if she needs it, or maybe SS will arrange for carers to go into the house to look after her.

lardass88 · 29/12/2018 20:27

Thank you for replying. I've popped it on the chat thread.
I've been at the hospital all afternoon with her and my dad and she's not been put up on a ward just yet. There's been talk of home help and a care package being put into place.
As far as I'm aware the tenancy is in just her name.

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cheesywotnots · 29/12/2018 22:03

Hope your auntie is ok and recovers soon. She should have a care needs assessment in hospital and the staff can help arrange a care package, she will be seen by therapists. Some hospitals are now discharging people to community beds, or home with enablement, she might benefit from that for a few weeks, it depends on how well she can manage. If she is not able to manage who will look after her sister.

lardass88 · 29/12/2018 22:17

@cheesywotnots she is going to be assessed to see how well she is. Talk of social services coming to her house to check living conditions as well. Her sister ( my aunt) is staying with my mum and dad at the moment

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GooseberryJam · 29/12/2018 22:19

Someone needs to organise power of attorney now. Your dad or you. So that you can take charge of her affairs and advocate for her, and her sister, when needed. You can get a legal/financial one and also health and welfare one - I recommend getting both.

lardass88 · 29/12/2018 22:31

That is a good idea. Dad is listed as her next of kin. But I will look into that

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