Different strokes for different NHS CCGs perhaps, but never at any point were we invited into Surrey's decision meeting for NHS Cont Care, so we were never asked to leave! It wasn't like that recent drama, Care.
The peg feed may or may not be significant. Our NHS were very heavy on our Mum getting that, very pushy, we had to fight it all the way, and it may have been connnected to a tickbox criteria re granting NHS Cont Care. Because I never got any sense the consultant gave a damn about her or her lack of fluid on the ward. (There may be a more sinister reason for the PEG being inserted.) Eventually, our mother did get a PEG - we went private - but that was around three years after when her swallow packed up for good.
One bittersweet thing was when I spoon fed my mother liquid honey from a squeegee bottle while she was on a PEG and she really took to it, she loved it, despite her impaired swallow! Sadly that was just the one time, as the care home then had us barred from giving her suction, and she died a few weeks later - the care home was then able to charge the price they had demanded for that now vacant room.
(The care industry is run and managed by cunts.)
Back on subject, a PEG might not work for your dad if he is pulling tubes out.
And NHS Cont Care might work for him, esp if you are in a position to offer top up fees as well. So a care home might demand '24-hr care' which is rubbish really, it's not like it literally means someone will be with them 24 hours a day, but it is really just a way of ratcheting things up if they have 'complex' needs. If so, you could be forking out around £1,500 a week with extra care topped up by the NHS Cont Care, it's not exactly like that, but that's generally it, so it's not like you get the whole thing for free.
To be honest, this sounds like a situation you are going to have to keep your eye on it, so stay off the coffee as hopefully you will be in it for the long haul. Any rehabilitation your parent undergoes, it will all be done by you if my experience is anything to go by. Pace yourself and try to play him nice stuff off your iPod.
The swallowing problem may be a biggie as I think care homes can go nuts on the whole aspiration thing, legally a death by that way can be a minefield for them, whereas of course dehydration really isn't, as no one gets blamed. That may be a reason why some prefer the PEG.