My mom is 54yrs old, exercises at her local gym daily, is part of a sorority, attends church, loves to travel, beautiful, loves to laugh, a bit reserved, just everything I hope to be when I’m her age.
My dad died when I was 13 I’m now 30 and she’s been dating the same guy for about 11yrs. However, she’s not happy with him anymore. He’s expressed in the past that he wasn’t interested in remarrying after his wife’s death, but she held out hope and is now realizing that won’t marriage happen. He also doesn’t have the same zest for life as she does and rarely does anything outside of going out to dinner and antique shopping and kind of downs her suggestions of doing things she enjoys (football games, traveling, theatre plays, etc.) .
Lately she’s been expressing her longing for a close female friend. She moved to a new state in 2015 after taking care of my aunt who died from breast cancer. Although she tries to build female connections through her sorority and at the gym, etc. she hasn’t had any luck. Back in our hometown she had two close friends and several acquaintances that she would socialize with often.
It seems a lot of women her age aren’t looking for friends and/or don’t want to bring “single” women into their circle. Some are even flat out rude to her. It makes me so sad and angry because I know how lonely she must feel and it sucks because she’s a caring, sweet person. If I lived closer I’d do these things with her. She’s my world and experiencing her second wind in life and I want her to enjoy it!
Does anybody have any suggestions or experience dealing with this?