I'm not quite sure if this should be here or in Relationships.
My in-laws have moved a fair distance away, which is fine but is making difficult conversations harder. MiL has been having memory issues for several years now. I noticed and mentioned it to DH and BiL but it's not until it was very noticeable that BiL has agreed with us.
We have talked to FiL and gently tried discussing it with Mil, when she's brought the subject up but it's all very difficult as they have exceptionally firm boundaries as a couple and can be difficult/firm if you cross them. DH and BiL are very conditioned to the boundaries, I'm struggling as I'm from a shouty family, that don't sweep things under a carpet for years at a time.
Anyway, as part of moving, FiL promised he'd do something to address the issue as part of the new GP onboarding process. PiL have just been down at BiL and so I asked if he knew what the current situation is, as a couple of months have passed. Needed to chase for an answer and he said he's giving them a break as FiL know what's needing doing.
So frustrated, so sent him a ranty email, tho I did explain it's not really my place. However, we're visiting next month and I'll end up having the conversations they avoid. I understand about capacity and that it's up to them, etc but they live a long way away and FiL still seems to think MiL can manage "if she concentrates" and could live on her own. That ship has sailed...
Really, just so frustrated, advice welcome.