Meet the Other Phone. Child-safe in minutes.

Meet the Other Phone.
Child-safe in minutes.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Elderly parents

Helping Mum and carers for lunchtime build a good and gentle relationship....

1 reply

loveyouradvice · 17/08/2018 14:29

We're in that strange stage where Mum is not really eating, unless she is with someone, but doesn't need any other care - Some dementia but is very capable of looking after herself and her flat. And my siblings and I are doing the more complicated stuff re finances and health - as well as going to see her when we can.

So we are looking for someone to "have lunch" with her five days a week... first person we tried she found "too talkative" and cancelled her more often than not.

Mum's fairly reclusive, happy to chat about simple stuff with us but very happy living solo and watching TV and occasionally going out... and still plays bridge with friends two or three times a month (we think).

Any tips anyone can share about how to approach this? I'm thinking possibly watching television together? Or doing some "sorting"/cleaning gently in another room while Mum eats....

But she is SO good at saying she is not hungry now and will have something later... and then not doing so. Just lost interest....So we're going to need someone who is gently insistent, while we also tell Mum how important it is to her and us

Sadly we don't have Meals on Wheels near us so are going to have to find someone independently

OP posts:
thesandwich · 17/08/2018 21:48

Dm has had carers since a fracture and needing post op care but hated the lunchtime ones insisting on talking to her while she ate.
Could you get someone to come in and prepare food?
Ask for recommendations locally. And leave dm to eat and perhaps tidy kitchen etc.
Do you have any local lunch clubs? Age uk/ local churches etc?could carer take her out to lunch??

New posts on this thread. Refresh page