MIL Driving

[DreamingofSunshine]

MIL is 93, and we are increasingly concerned she shouldn't be driving, her awareness and reflexes are poor and I feel so guilty that she could cause an accident. DH and I have discussed it with her and she says we're rude and out of order.

Any advice on what we can do? I'm certain that she would fail a medical competency test.

Report her anonymously on the DVLA website (they do ask for your email address but my lot have never found out it was me that dobbed FIL to the DVLA). Have some specific examples of what you think the problems are and what youv’e witnessed.

You can report to the DVLA and/or speak to GP. her records are obviously confidential but you can suggest that you are worried. My gran's GP ran some tests after I phoned. her licence was taken away. I told her - I felt dreadful about taking her independence away but I know I'd have felt worse if there had been an accident.

My husband contacted the DVLA when we had real concerns about my m other-in-law's driving. They write to her and said she needed to be assessed but in the end she caved in surprisingly easily. She never found out who'd contacted them. And when we discussed it recently she made out it had been her decision because she could never have lived with herself if she'd caused death or injury. Recent case here of 90 year old accidentally putting car into reverse in a car park and driving right over a young man. He died

Please report. My DM was killed by a pensioner drifting into oncoming traffic last year. She was 69.

Report anonymously on DVLA website - blame it on a neighbour/someone she saw at a clinic/passerby.

They contact her GP and ask for her medical records - she can say no but essentially then the DVLA will say she can't drive.

My FIL gave up at the point of asking for his records. He went to see his GP and GP told him if asked, she would say he wasn't fit. He also realised he was in no way up for the driving test he would be sent on.

Thanks all, have contacted the GP and DH will look into the DVLA. I can't live with the fear that she could injure someone or worse.