My MIL is a very active, sprightly, clever lady. She is 94- still drives and is very independent. She has always said that she wants to stay at home and if she ever became too frail, she wanted to someone to live in with her as a companion/carer. She has even found a person to do this.
My BIL has lived abroad for over 30 years and only seen her once or twice a year. BIL has now moved back to this country. He is now trying to make MIL sell her house and move to a fancy retirement village nearer to him and arranged viewings. MIL has lived in the same village for 50 years and has a many friends and a good support network (as well as us). She is in a central place so grandchildren and family can easily visit her.
DH has always been there for his Mum and would struggle to get to the new place which is some hours away (as would the rest of the family). BIL travels a great deal around the world so although the retirement home would be near to him, he probably wouldn't be there much of the time. If something went wrong DH would have to sort it out, but would be miles away.
I just can't believe BIL thinks this is a good idea. How practical is it for a 94 year old to start all over again in a totally new place where she doesn't know anyone? On paper the fancy retirement home sounds nice, but in reality I think she could be very lonely. Does anyone have experience of this?