Social services are beginning to see my point of view that MiL is in need of a care home. We are exploring that possibility now.
Ss have told me that MiL is self funding until her savings fall below the threshold. It’ll be about 5/6 months in a care home before her savings dip below 23k.
Ss told me that they’ll contribute £520 five or take per week and if the chosen care home costs above that, then top up costs will need to be paid. That’s fair enough. No problem with that.
But apparently even though we have POA for MIL we can’t use her remaining money for the top up fees and we have to pay out of our own money? Apparently top up fees can’t be paid by the patient they have to be paid by the family?
There is no way I can afford another £100 - £150 per week (which is what care homes round here average out at) from our own money. We aren’t poor by any means, but like everybody else we have a biggish mortgage, enjoy holidays and have two children at university and another one not far off. I don’t have that kind of cash spare without severely curtailing our own lifestyle, no holidays etc, which tbh revolves already around caring for two elderly relatives so we bloody need a holiday once a year and a drink in the pub one night a week!
Is this right? How the hell does anyone navigate the care system?