My dad, through his stubbornness (I tried to get a full care package in many times before) has stayed as a main carer to my mother for far too long. Now she has taken a turn for the worse, and he physically and mentally can't cope anymore.
I understand and sympathise, and am helping out a lot. I have arranged an urgent assessment from social services. In the meantime I was there today for a few hours to help with washing and making the bed etc.
But it's not enough, it's like he has hit a wall and can't do it anymore, he's calling me every half hour and the stress is making me ill. I want to help but I am already behind on my uni work (mature student) and until the nurse and assessment team see her I kind of feel like I can't do much else. I am physically unwell enough to lift and move her and mentally my anxiety is off the chart.
It sounds simple but what do I do? Leave him go drown? Turn my phone off? I don't think I can bring myself too. My mum is crying and doesn't seem to know what day it is, it's all just too much. It's going to take a week or so to get the assessment done and I know I have to but I don't think we can cope until then.