Hi everyone- firstly, I’m sorry if this is in wrong place....It was the only sensible place I could really think to put it. Scenario - I’m 50, husband is 50, he only has his mum, he is treasured only child. His mum, my MIL lives about 1.5 hrs away with her boyfriend. She is wealthy,76 yrs, lives in huge coastal listed cottage, has v. Good health. Her boyfriend is 65, less wealthy, nice guy, she bosses him around. She has had 3 marriages ending in divorce (mainly her husbands have had affairs). She is hard work - emotionally selfish, generous with money with her son, for reasons she approves of, and won’t help out if she doesn’t approve. I’m currently in a wheelchair as very weak following Undiagnosed Tuberculosis,and sadly it’s been a very hard Past four years where we’ve had to accept her money, after me not being to work, NHS misdiagnosis big time, resulting in us spending huge amounts on private healthcare, homehelp ect. Self & DH Self Employed, MIL will help out with money, not with her time. She doesn’t love boyfriend - by her own admission, but doesn’t want to be alone either - (been with him 13 years approx), and phoned DH yesterday to tell him she’d had a row with her boyfriend, on Thursday, “because he doesn’t do the chores I set for him”, and she had gone to stay at a friends. She is still there, and DH and I are now very worried as we’ve seen this before with other long term boyfriends, and the last time it happened she asked to come and live with us after trying hard to “buy” us off, by saying she’d buy a large house for us and her to all live in . I put my foot down, and said it wasn’t happening. She moved on, and found current boyfriend. Now we can see this happening again - her major relationship upheavals are always preceded by these smaller events. My DH is an only child his mum has no family (she has basically alienated herself from them), and he is terrified as he spends some of his time helping me right now until I get back to full health....but I know he feels duty bound to do what she wants, and I know he is dreading what might be coming. He doesn’t really see her emotional selfishness as she isn’t like it with him. Basically in her world she comes first.....and I’m dreading the Sh*t which will hit the fan if she brings up the “moving in with us” card again. We have two sons living away from home, my mum is 90, fiercely independent, lives in sheltered accommodation 200 miles away. She is the antithesis of DH mum. I guess I’m looking for a bit of moral support here, suggestions or advice....as right now I feel like I’m waiting for a bomb to drop on our life ☹️