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Please stop it mother!

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Mupflup · 09/09/2017 11:27

DM is in her 70s, not in bad health generally but atm has a recurring UTI. She wants to tell me all about it in detail every time I speak to her. I have said repeatedly that I don't need / want to hear all her symptoms but she persists: 'Ooh the burning, the itching, I keep myself very clean down there though you know, I think I might be having another prolapse etc etc.'

Growing up any talk of bodies, periods, sex etc was frowned upon (in a totally OTT weird kind of way, she is very religious and all those things were termed 'dirty'), so I am NOT comfortable listening to this at all, it's not a level of intimacy we have ever had, and not one I now want! I have a brother who lives round the corner from her (I'm hundreds of miles away), and she won't even mention it to him.

I do care she's not well, I just can't hack the details! Does anyone else's mother do this and if so how do you deal with it? I'm at the point of holding the phone away from my ear when she does it.

Please no 'Awwh she's your mum don't be so mean', I need practical help for dealing with it!

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Mightybanhammer · 26/10/2017 10:27

Yes OP I was reflecting on this very thing only yesterday. I am no prude, but it is so far out with any type of discussion we had had before. Am wondering if it's early dementia related disinhibition or something.

ringle · 05/11/2017 19:30

Coming to terms with the relationship changing goes with the territory though. It can be a good thing.

You'll rise to the occasion at some point. Till then, holding the phone a couple of inches from your ear works fine. We seem to monologue more as we age.

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