Losing driving licence

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FiL has had his lost his licence because of vascular dementia. He is extremely angry about this and is constantly challenging and asking when is he going to get his license back. He is getting increasingly aggressive.

DH thinks that they should just be blunt with him and keep telling him he's not getting his license back. BiL keeps dangling the carrot that they can appeal the decision even though we know the decision would still be the same.

Driving and cars were FILs "thing" so it's amplified I think.

Any advice?

We told my mum, ' the Drs say you can't drive, and no one can change that' over and over again. It made it clear it wasn't anything to do with us, no chance of changing anything, don't get cross at us etc. And repeat, and repeat. Same story for everyone, so less confusing too.

My mum can't even be trusted to drive a very slow mobility scooter, and hasn't driven for 7 years, but still thinks she could!

We did the same with my gran. She was really angry and blamed my parents but they just kept telling her that it was the doctors who had made the decision. It sunk in eventually.

Thanks. DH and his brother can't agree a strategy unfortunately.

We got my father using Uber before permanently taking away his driver license. He barely even noticed it was gone. Now even my mother is talking about giving hers up because uber is just so convenient. If you are in a town that has Uber/Lyft, try it out. It's so unbelievably convenient that the teenagers here in Los Angeles are not bothering to get their licenses at 16 (something every teen used to do in California). I feel so much happier knowing that my elderly (in their 80's) parents and my teenage kids are Ubering instead of unsafe driving.