Briefly - Dad's been in hospital for a month after a nasty infection. He in his late 80s and has Parkinson's and an emerging dementia. Before hospital he was managing OK, just, but things were getting difficult. He basically lives alone, has someone coming in to do his meals, washing, make sure he has his pills etc.
His confusion has got much worse in hospital and levels of lucidity vary wildly. His mobility is poor now, he's very unstable and he is unable to walk with his zimmer without someone with him. His house has steps between every room, and far from ideal.
The hospital are starting to talk to us about plans for discharge. I'm really struggling with the received wisdom that everyone does better if they can be supported to stay at home. In theory I agree whole-heartedly, but in reality I can't see it working. Do we try to get him home with carers in the knowledge that we don't think it will work and he'll have to move again, or do we bite the bullet and look at care homes. Both conditions are going to get worse over time, even if he picks up a little at home (which I think he might, as he'll be less institutionalised).
Sorry for the rant - any views would be welcome, but I think getting my thoughts down was really useful, so thanks if you read this far! 