Dad (80) had his first fall and broke his hip three weeks and four days ago. he got a hip replacement within a day but reacted badly to the anaesthetic and has had episodes of confusion/depression since then plus he got a urinary tract infection. He has a diagnosis of dementia and because of this staff seem to have low expectations of his prospects for mobility. His mental states are hugely variable - he veers from total withdrawal to chatting lucidly about recent events (he has no short term memory loss which is why I suspect his Alzheimers dx is wrong but till now that hasn't mattered as he and mum got access to support groups they enjoyed, etc). He was fully mobile before he tripped and the hip has healed well.
He is bed-blocking in an acute ward but from our point of view the problem is that he is getting no support to stand. He was walking easily before the trip. He has stood once or twice on a zimmer but this ward is not equipped to spend the necessary time to help him.
Two weeks ago it was decided he should go to rehab. One rehab facility turned him down. They are waiting for a place at another one.
My mum is obviously at breaking point, being frail herself.
She has money but it's like being stuck in an airport for three weeks - you don't leave because you keep thinking "oh, I'd better not walk out now because it's about to end..."
Any advice on what we as a family can do? He can't go home until he's stronger as can't yet walk to the loo and mum is too frail to meet all physical needs.