Lighthearted thread....life with my elderly relative.

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I think need to write a book called " the cake and loo review "!

Now it cooler the only thing dad and I seem to do is go anywhere that provides a little wheel round, tea, cake and hoping the disabled loo is properly accessible ! Webbs gets 10/10 for both, and a bonus point for not minding us sharing a pit of tea, he doesn't drink much when out.

On the other hand, the cinema was a dead loss ! He got fed up after an hour and it was too dark to get out safely. Seemed like a good plan though...

Hello all.
I know many of you are struggling with elderlies- sending fil who had a mini stroke recently( in nursing home since major stroke 5 years ago) got the staff to phone dh so he could talk to him. He wanted dh to arrange a party for him and reeled off a whole list of people he wanted toninvite( many very long dead) and also told dh he wanted him to drive him to the south coast as one of his pals was going to fly him to France in his spitfire. He did acknowledge it would be a bit of a squash in the spitfire..... Dh coped very well with the phone call but did depend most of it looking very bemused😗

WOw! That's quite a story! Was he involved in WW2? At least it sounds like a fun place to be (albeit only in his mind).

my father occasionally claims to have invented the Ford Escort van. I'm fairly sure he didn't, but you never can tell with my dad - he did work at Ford Dagenham in the 70s!

No... He was in the merchant navy..... As you say it's a nice place to be! There is a newish lady resident at his home who is very chatty- I'd live to hear some of their chats...... Or maybe not!😎😎

Sandwich I'm hoping to pair my Dad off with a very tall, friendly and well spoken lady at his care home. She looks like she might have an interesting past!

Ex wife maybe he had some good ideas for new car design, and felt he should have got more recognition?!

Gives them a bit of excitement! Other lady's hubby comes to visit quite often and is quite happy that his wife has company! She was complaining they are not allowed to touch or go to each others rooms- both are paralysed down one side and cannot move unaided!!

Am I reading this correctly- are residents not allowed to touch one another?

Yes!

So this lady says! 😄 I suspect she may have planned trips in spitfires too though.....

Re people forgetting appointments when they have memory problems, I work in a dementia clinic, we were asked by senior managers why we have so many DNAs....hmmm

Juggling every time I refer someone to the dementia clinic I chuckle to myself and wonder if the DNAs balance the" wrong day" contingent. Or if really the appointments are just a front and you just see who ever turns up on the day :)

Juggling balls- love it! ( I work in the NHS...).
Sorry to hear re no touching. I can see issues of consent can be problematic but surely it must be a comfort to continue to feel touch and if people in care homes like each other why not?

Why aren't appointments at dementia clinics are arranged with the main carer. Such a waste of resources. We have just missed one at the clinic - but I knew nothing about it. I only realised because I phoned to see when the next one might be. It was last month.

My Mum simply cannot do appointments. She regularly gets up at 5am, gets stressed because the bus doesn't come and walks to the Doctor's surgery for "imaginary" appointments. She cannot understand why the surgery is closed or they have lost her appointment. V distressing.

My 92 year old dad thinks my new car's reversing sensors play Greensleeves. This because the first time I took him out in it, as I reversed off his drive an ice-cream van turned into the street. 😀