my mum died tonight

[RiverWhy]

she was 87 and frail, I am just so so sad

OP I lost my dad three weeks ago now. There is a thread in Bereavement called "Support for anyone who has lost a parent" and although it is the club no one wants to join, there is a lot of good support over there. I hope you will come on over if/when you feel up to it.

Sorry for your loss

thank you hearts. I am sorry for you loss.

River
I'm sorry that you are alone. Will you be able to sleep at all?
(Possibly stupid question)
I'll be up for a bit.

River I am sorry to read your sad news losing my mother eight years ago was beyond painful and I am shedding tears of empathy for you writing this. Hope you can find strength to move through the coming days.

So sorry. My mum died three years ago and it is shit. It is such a huge thing and I remember wondering how the world around me could just carry in as normal when something so massive had happened.

Be kind to yourself.

many thanks for your replies....hope to sleep but have additional worries re my dds

Still cannot believe this

I'm so sorry. No matter how expected, it is always an awful shock.

I know with my grandmother who died in her 90s and my dad who's 91, they certainly reach a time when they're prepared to die. I do think it's very different when you reach that age; you're so tired and all your friends and family of the same generation have gone. It's their time to go.

I hope your girls can give you some comfort. It's so different at that age, they're not so shocked by an elderly person dying and you need someone who can understand your loss.

Do you have any siblings or cousins? Was there anyone left of your mum's generation, eg her siblings, cousins or friends?

hi river, my mum died suddenly and unexpected in may, i feel your pain. You will get through it, people who havent had a parent die just dont know how it is. You will feel lost for a few months but you will heal. Dont feel pressured to do anything or get over it quickly because you wont.
sending my blessings x