in a nutshell Father is 83 parents divorced, mostly lives on own (my brother is a lorry driver and is only at home on a weekend and does everything for him), had surgery 4 years ago for lung cancer where they took part of his lung away, was a heavy smoker for years and liked a drink of whisky.
Health has deteriorated over the last few years, can hardly walk has a wheeled frame, carers come morning to help with bed making, light household duties and help with breakfast, evening they come in around bedtime to make sure he is safely in bed.
Nowdays he drinks beer and whisky from 1pm for a couple of hours, sleeps for an hour then drinks whisky again till around 9pm. Most nights he is drunk and unstable on his feet. Many times he's fallen and paramedics have been called to help lift him, on occasions he has been to hospital for cuts, infection etc...
He is in denial and wont admit he drinks too much, he doesnt dress in the mornings and sits in his pjs dressing gown all day. He is drinking nearly 2L bottles of whisky a week.
It's got to the point now that it really is a problem, I understand that it started with boredom and being housebound so one drink leads to another to relieve the boredom but it really is a problem.
He tells the carers to go at night and says he will get himself to bed - he goes literally 10 mins later and most nights he is drunk and often falls which then leads to the personal alarm being activated and me or siblings alerted.
Please can someone give me some advice on how the hell to handle this.
Other than saying we are not buying him anymore drink but he would ask others, friends, neighbours etc, to get it Im sure