Really need a bit of advice if any is available my mum left my dad in June and after staying with a friend for a few months has now moved in with my grandma who is 84. Gran list grandad in June 13 and has been ill herself needing open heart surgery but has recovered brilliantly. The problem is my gran and mum don't get on very well they are both as bad as each other but my mum can really shout at my gran at times often when it's uncalled for. I feel stuck in the middle, I hate to see my gran upset but at the same time I understand my mum has a lot going on. A lot of stuff has come out since my parents separated, they still get along just my mum wanted out sort of feel she has run away from the responsibility a bit and blames my dad for drinking every night. But I think a lot of it is her thinking she can perhaps do better after 32 years of marriage. She left with no job and has now got a job that she is hoping will be permanent and I am hoping she will find her own place to live but she owns half my grans house with her brother so I feel it's going to get really messy plus my dad is struggling to keep up with the mortgage which she hasn't contributed too. My brother is pretty angry with my mum but I am always the nice stuck on the fence kid but I am really getting down with all this family pressure on me being the oldest child and grandchild. It's just so hard to be stuck in the middle not knowing what to say or do.
I don't know if anyone else has been through this sort of thing ??