Please don't slate me I am just being honest. My IL's are hell, I do not want to do anything for them, can't bear being near them but must try for my DH's sake. My MIL has made my life hell for over 30 years, hated me on the spot and told me so, tried to stop our wedding and only tolerates me because I have a DS, her own daughters have moved as far away as they can as she has made their lifes miserable the only one not treated like crap is her DS. He does know what she is like and now she needs me I can't be there for her. I am not cruel I do the weekly shop online and occasionally take them out, have set up repeat prescriptions, milk, cleaner etc but that is about as much as I want to do. Not sure if it is because I am getting older and cannot bear to end up the same, but MIL is so cruel, manipulative and vindictive, great to strangers crap to her family and this is not an age thing, it is how she has always been. My FIL is more bearable but rude and say's/does nothing apart from what he is told to do. They are housebound through choice as FIL can no longer drive and MIL won't take public transport, that is unless she wants to go out for dinner and then that is ok. I work part time and have a DS doing Exams at present so cannot do everything she want's so she has started asking her cleaner to do everything and when told this was wrong said she got a box of chocs at xmas what more does she want. I have to try to find a way around this negative feeling as they get older as I am going to be left doing everyone. Her own DM was left to rot because she did not want to give up her time and help but expects everyone to help her. I hate feeling this way but know it will be hard to change. Am I alone feeling this way?