Managing incontinence

[LaBelleDameSansPatience]

I look after my mother who has vascular dementia. She is incontinent and I always have to wash all bedding every morning. Daft question really; I use a waterproof cottony type sheet, then an ordinary sheet, then a draw (kylie ?) sheet across the middle section of the bed.
Do I really need the ordinary sheet? It just takes up more space on the line.
Can anyone recommend a good quality, not too rustly, comfortable yet waterproof bottom sheet? Are there any other tips/products I might be missing?
Obviously, she should use night-time incontinence products, but she won't, it makes her cry and I can't bear that ...
I suppose I can really answer my own questions, but it gets a bit lonely managing everything without anyone to discuss it all with ... that person would obviously always have been my mum ...

Hi OP, you sound like you are doing a wonderful job,

I cant recommend a sheet, but I think your G.P surgery should have a continence advisor, ( possibly a district nurse)

They carry out assessments, and possibly can order products from Tena. It may be better for your mum to wear maybe some knicker type pads, to protect her skin from the urine to prevent her getting sore.

But I totally understand that this upsets her, I just wanted to let you know that support should be available via the G.P if you ever need it

What a shame not everyone has a caring thoughtful daughter like you, to be so lovely about it.

I dont know the answer, but suggest you change your name to LaBelleDameavecPatience!

Wooden ... district nurse has been, but gave her giant pads and netty knickers for the night, which she just can't bear ... and was rather 'take it or leave it'. Obviously; her job, not her mother.
Needmoresleep ... LaBelleDameABesoinDePlusPatience ... or so my DD, DH and DMenagerie would definitely tell you.

There are a few medications available to help with this,

Would your mum manage to remember to use a commode next to the bed?

The John Lewis quilted waterproof sheets are nice and not rustly or sweaty and would be fine with no additional sheet. You can get duvet protectors as well if that gets wet.
Are you changing the kylie in the night? If not, and you have to wash everything, then I'd ditch that.

My dad likes the tena pants, which are more dignified that pads and net pants, so might be worth a try.

You could give something like Coverdry a go as easy to wash.

I've found that when I don't know what to buy, the staff at my local disability stuff shop are brilliant as they know whats available and different ways of approaching stuff.

In continence is one of the few things I haven't had to deal with ( yet) with Dad's AD. I would also endorse John Lewis s waterproof sheets though,used one when I was pregnant. Not at all sweaty.
Also think you deserve a name change!

No to commode ... on principle, I think. But thanks for the suggestion.
I keep going on to the John Lewis site to buy the waterproof sheet and getting called away!