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Elderly parents

Consultant appointment next week....so many worries about Mum

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skyblue11 · 18/11/2013 17:54

Mum had a head scan now we have the results. It's the same thing to what happened to my dad, I feel sick going through this twice. I am dreading going I really am. At the moment she's kind of OK but can't handle any medication, it's just too much for her so the GP is giving her pain relief patches for her osteoarthritis, even that's a big deal about if it comes off, when does another one go one etc etc. So I suppose anything like Aricept is out of the question.
She really needs help in her house she can no longer cook a meal, forgotten how to use the oven so she just uses the microwave now. She loses track of what day it is and never goes out as 'she's not up to it' she's extremely frail, such a worry. I am also sure she's forgetting to eat, and that's why she weight so very little (just under 6 stone).
She has a mentor type worker who she likes, they referred her to a sitting service, which she agreed to then when they made the appointment and I told her she went mad saying she isn't up to seeing anybody so i had to cancel, she is so difficult.
It's so hard isn't it having your own family then this to deal with and trying to hold a job down, I've never felt so pulled in so many directions!

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whataboutbob · 19/11/2013 14:23

Hi sky blue you have my sympathies. I t seems particularly cruel to have to go through this twice. I understand how hard it s to keep everything going.I am exhausted after 3 years of supporting my dad who has AD. As you know it just gets more and more intense and all encroaching. Furthermore In the last few months my brother has been diagnosed with schizophrenia. Yesterday I went my G P and she signed me off work for 2 weeks, which honestly is a relief.

Theas18 · 20/11/2013 10:49

Oh gosh skyblue. Have a huge hug from me. I know exactly how you feel

giraffesCantGoGuising · 01/12/2013 07:46

How did it go?

skyblue11 · 01/12/2013 20:19

Not good. Mum said she wasn't up to going so I went alone to see the consultant. After a lot of skirting around about changes in the brain I asked outright if she had dementia and of course the answer was yes. I think even though you kind of know hearing it made me emotional and worse was that she has frontal lobe dementia which is genetic. She said I could maybe think about counselling and testing later. I was upset at my DH reaction he said 'oh I have that to look forward to then' so I didn't feel supported. It makes sense the language problems and the apathy and de motivation to do absolutely anything. Of course this was put down to depression and losing dad 3 years ago. She is getting more confused or maybe I am noticing more. I have a lot to think about and I have been emotional and teary since last Wednesday, went to work though!
I don't know what to do about her POA and when to register and every days brings problems, good job I'm nearby (or not whichever way you look at it)

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Theas18 · 05/12/2013 23:21

Aw sky that's harried for you to have to deal with. You must get POA ASAP though

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