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Elderly parents

Elderly neighbour terminally I'll, I want to help somehow....

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AGreenie · 13/11/2013 22:35

We've lived next door to our neighbours for about 9 years, they are a lovely couple and I think we have a great neighbour relationship- we're in our 30s, they're in the 70s. The husband is terminally ill and not expected to survive the week.
I want to do something to show the wife that we're thinking of them and show our support for her - I have already told her that we're here for them and will do anything that we can to help. Unfortunately, we can't visit the husband due to work hours/ visiting hours, having young children that we couldn't take with us etc, but the husband has Alzheimer's as well as his terminal illness so I don't think he'd know ego we were anyway....
Anyway, I want to show the wife that we're here for her - obviously as he's terminal, a 'get well' card won't do - any suggestions how we can dhow our neighbours and their family that we're thinking of them ?
Tia

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AGreenie · 13/11/2013 22:37

Oh sort for all the typos! Fat fingers on phone ;)

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AGreenie · 13/11/2013 22:38

*sorry
Damn that 'autocorrect'!

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BiddyPop · 13/11/2013 22:46

Can you drop in a tasty small meal that she can easily reheat after visiting, or a bit of soup? She may not want visitors, and will possibly get inundated with cakes once it happens, but she needs to eat now and afterwards.

Something easy to reheat, or that could also be frozen for when she wants to use it, would be helpful. And a note to remind her you are thee, maybe offering to run for milk and groceries rather than her having to think about it, and offering to go over or have her to yours of she wants company, food or to talk.

AGreenie · 13/11/2013 22:53

Thanks biddypop, great suggestions - I think I will make her some meals to reheat - I think she'll like that. And offering to pop round in the evening for company is good too - she has lots of family visit in but they've all gone by 6 and sometimes the evenings can be the hardest.... Thanks for your advice !

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bigbrick · 13/11/2013 23:01

Being there after her dh has passed away for a friendly word and help.Perhaps invite her round for a tea some days after the funeral so she can have a break from the empty house

eddiemairswife · 13/11/2013 23:33

When my neighbour was terminally ill her I used to see if she needed any thing from Sainsburys when I went and popped in regularly for a chat to let her know the latest gossip.

AGreenie · 14/11/2013 06:37

Thanks everyone, great advice! I'll see if she needs shopping and will make her some food.... Thanks for your help!

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elspethmcgillicuddy · 14/11/2013 06:40

Lovely suggestions. I find that rather than a "get well soon" card, the phrase "thinking of you" seems to cover lots of bases.

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