DHs aunt (MILs sister) has dementia. Over the last few years she has gone from a cantankerous, feisty, astute woman to a scared, confused child. She married late, was widowed soon after and never had any children.
She lives on the same estate as PILs, and they look after her. They cook for her, organise her money, do her laundry, MIL helps her shower and changes her incontinence pads. PILs are also elderly, MIL is in her 70's now and FIL is 70 this year. DA is in her 80's.
They can't do it anymore. She has been wandering the streets, people have been coming into her house to "help" and been stealing money from her purse... Last week she was found collapsed in the kitchen, noone knew how long she'd been there, she was conscious but barely. They took her into a respite (I think) home where she has been all week.
They wanted to send her home again today, but MIL managed to persuade them to keep her till monday, when they will do another care assessment.
MIL is in bits, she can't cope physically and mentally its taking its toll too, FIL does loads, but his health isn't great either and he's stressed out. They just can't cope. We do as much as we can, but live on the other side of the county.
She has some savings, but not loads, What help can they get? She needs residential care.
Any advice gratefully received
Can I have some advice, please, re elderly aunt with dementia and PILs?
lissieloo · 19/07/2013 10:37
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