My dh has spent 10 hours clearing snow this weekend. Lots of it. (more than one roof) Backbreaking work. My father has always expected his 70 something year old mate to do this because it is a "privilege" to help.
After a long discussion this morning I made my dad understand that his mate is too old for this type of work/help. He says his mate is strong as an ox, but I say that he cannot expect a man in his 70s spend 10 hours clearing snow from a slippery roof (some pics on my profile of the amount of snow) Having accepted that his best mate might be too old, he asked "so who else can he call upon that could hep ?
He does not accept that he will have to pay for this job to be done. People should want to help, and it saddens him that nobody would come and spend 10 hours of hard physical work for no compensation.
The thing is, there is nobody. One after the other his younger friends from his working days have pulled away (wonder why )
I told him I remember years ago he used to pay a company to do this job, but he reeled in horror saying he did not want to pay their fees. £90 per hour. My dad has the money to pay, that is not the problem, he just does not WANT to pay.
I suggested some of my husbands mates, but told him he would have to pay, but he was not interested.
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How can I make an 86 year old man understand that he needs to pay for help and that people will not help him for free from the goodness of their hearts?
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QuintEggSensuality · 02/04/2013 14:12
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